• James Hewlett

New Years Resolutions

This time last year, wow can I just interrupt myself there for a second and say how that it feels like just yesterday and a lifetime ago all at the same time... weird.

Anyway, this time last year I wrote a few resolutions out but mostly states that I'm not a big fan of the practice.

The core of that is still true, I think it's a mostly hollow promise that never comes to anything.

I've got a longer list this year though, some are things I've already started, some are things I would like to do but don't have a time frame for and some are just fun things I hope happen over the course of the year.

They're not really resolutions, more just a list of goals for the coming year.

Let's get into it...

(Note. I wrote this list about two weeks ago, a lot has happened since then but looking over it, I still stand by it all.)

1. Be the most supportive husband in the world.

When Sara told me she felt I hadn't been very supportive since she started her new job I was a bit taken a back. I felt like I had been, but I know I should have been doing more.

I'm not going to try and change anyones mind about a way they have felt, but what I can do is make sure that going forward that is different. I've been making this a focus since she told me that earlier in the month. I hope it is noticed, received and helps.

2. Cook more.

This one directly follows up the last one. I've always offered to cook and have always been there to help and do all the cleaning up afterward, but if I get home from work before Sara I can at least get something prepped for when she finishes work.

I always want to dive back into our plethora of cool cook books and try out some new stuff! That's always fun.

3. Try to have 'healthy meals' at least three times a week and not snack at all during the days.

Again, follows on from the last one and should be a lot easier if I'm doing the cooking as I can plan ahead what we can have.

4. Operation No More Fat Fuck.

Already started and will continue.

5. Only drink when in a social setting.

The couple of weeks of sobriety I had while going through a really tough situation to deal with let me know that I can easily just not when I might have a casual beer on an evening. If I save it for when we go out for a meal or are hanging out with friends I'll enjoy it more.

6. Keep the house super tidy and don't let a mess build up.

This goes along with the first one again. Our house is never dirty, but it's small and it doesn't take much for it to get cluttered. When stuff starts building up it looks and feels like so much more of a job that I don't want to deal with too. So again, I've already started doing this but on the weekend I'm making sure that any little thing that may have built up over the week is sorted, tidied and cleaned. It's been great so far. It's easy too when it's already pretty dang clean.

7. Get on top of my finances.

This one is a little more out of my hands. I don't spend frivolously, I earn as much as I can at my job... but life isn't cheap. Hopefully some things will go my way this year and I'll be able to stay on top of things better.

8. Make an effort to see Joey & Sienna more.

My nephew and niece are super cool and are at a fun age where hanging out with them isn't weird and awkward for someone like me who has never spent much time with kids. I should see them more often.

9. Catch up with friends more often, not just in times of crisis.

I think everyone is a little guilty of it as they get older. We don't make the time to go see and hang out with friends as much but still turn to them when we really need them. I've been on both sides of it and it's never a bad thing or a problem, I'd just like to actually catch up, hang out and see friends more often.

10. Join, start or just generally participate in a D&D (or similar) group again.

I haven't played a tabletop RPG since Kez left nearly two years ago and I miss it. It relates to the last point I made, it's just a ton of fun to hang out with a small group of friends and fuck around for a few hours. Emma has mentioned starting a group a few times, I really want to get that going.

11. Go out and play Star Wars Legion more.

Similar to the last one, there doesn't seem to be a scene for the game here in Southampton but there is down in Poole. I need to make the effort to go down there on the gaming evenings and participate. It's a great game that I really enjoy, I'd just like to be more involved. It would be a lot easier if I had a friend locally to play against/go to events with.

12. Get a dog.

I really really want a dog. It's to the point now that I don't actually care what the landlord says. We've been here long enough, if they don't trust us to get a doggo and want to kick us out just for that after being good tenants for so many years, so be it. I would like to hope that maybe we'll be in a position to buy sometime at which point there wouldn't be any hesitation, but if we're not, I could see it being a case of saying fuck it and just getting a pooch regardless.

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