• James Hewlett

When You Aren't Even Looking


You ever lose your keys, phone, remote or whatever? I’m sure you have, we all do it.

You search high and low for them scour every possible location and turn up nothing. You give up, you get on with it without any resolution. Maybe you go and grab the spare key out of the draw, maybe you go an buy a new remote. You get on with it.

Sometimes the thing you were looking for originally turns up, but a lot of the time you just move on and stop looking. I find it’s only then that something new comes along, something you weren’t planning for, weren’t expecting, didn’t even know you wanted or were ready for... but it’s fucking awesome and you can’t get enough of it.

You can’t plan for these things, you definitely shouldn’t expect them! Doing that would turn you into an entitled a-hole and only lead to disappointment as it won’t happen every time, hell it might not ever happen. Let it happen naturally and ride the surprise of it because when it does... it’s awesome.

The funniest part is that, and let’s continue on with the lost remote control as I can make that one work, you’ve been so used to one remote for so long that when it breaks or is lost and you’ve moved on from it being repaired or found you start looking for a replacement. You go to all the stores people recommend, you have a look around, but nothing’s quite right. Eventually you give up and just use an app on your phone.

Then one day you’re hanging out with a friend and find a remote that instantly....

Oh fuck it, this was a really thinly vailed metaphor anyway.

I’m happy. Happier than I’ve been in a very long time and it feels amazing.

I was not looking to or expecting to meet someone who I click with so well and it happened so organically.

I’m just going to leave it at that for now otherwise I’ll end up writing for ages.

#happiness #dating #gettingbetter #relationships

©2017 by James Hewlett.