• James Hewlett

Pass On What You Have Learned


Oh boy, what an evening yesterday!

Last week I heard from a friend who said he would really appreciate a catch up and a chat sometime soon. There was something about the tone of the message, I knew something was up but I had no idea what or how serious it was.

We made a plan and went for a drink last night.

Opening up about some heavy shit doesn’t come easily or naturally to him but he felt like he could confide in me and knew that I wouldn’t sugar coat anything or tell him what he wanted to hear. After he got started talking to me I told him flatly that everything I said was coming from friendship despite the fact that he may not like a lot of what I had to say.

He was receptive to that, I think it’s what he wanted honestly.

I did what could, not to necessarily help but to point him in the right direction for him to help himself. My hope is that I was able to streamline a few of the thoughts that were just a jumbled mess in his head before. I don’t know what’s going to happen but I’ve done what I can. The rest has to be on him.

It’s good that people feel confident and comfortable talking to me about real shit. I know exactly how important it is to have people like that in your life, I sure as shit wouldn’t have been able to deal with things half as well as I did without similar support from the people I chose to talk to when I need/needed to.

I used to be the go-to person for a fair few of my friends, it’s flattering albeit tiring. But since December I’ve not been called upon much to be that support, for a while I was on the other side of it and then I guess people just either haven’t needed it or were holding off. I am grateful for that too. I am always happy to help people out but it wasn’t until I got home last night that I remembered what it was like and how much of a break it’s been to not be in that role for a while.

If you’re struggling with anything, find people to talk to.

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