• James Hewlett

Age = Wisdom, right?

I’ve been thinking about this for a little while and I’m trying to figure out if it is a fully formed thought or just another ramble.

They say that wisdom comes with age. I think everyone scoffs against that until they start thinking that the generation or two younger than them are foolish or more specifically when they can identify a trait or action a younger person does that they themselves may have done in the past but wouldn’t consider anymore.

It applies to a broad spectrum of things, but I’m just going to focus on one today. Please excuse me if I come off as a grumpy old thirty two year old complaining about the youth of today. If thats the impression you get, just remember that I was you not too long ago, the only real difference is I remember seeing Jurassic Park at the cinema opening weekend.

I used to not give a shit about what I said or who I said it to. I never went out of my way to offend someone but as a highly opinionated kid I would speak my mind regardless of how it would make anyone feel. I couldn’t ever see a problem with calling out someones bullshit, correcting them or giving my two cents on a particular topic.

It wasn’t that I needed to be involved in every conversation; I was just as often likely to sit and watch how something played out than I was to chime in. But when I did, my focus was always on getting my point across more than what the consequence of my words or actions may have been.

I don’t particularly think I’m a whole lot wiser now that it is ten/fifteen years or so later, and I am still very opinionated and not afraid to speak my mind. The difference now is tact; knowing my audience. I would like to think that now instead of jumping in feet first with my opinion, I take a minute and think about how it may come across and if the way I am going to present it is A, going to accurately get my point across without any confusion. B, unnecessarily hurt or upset anyone and C, make sure it doesn’t come across as an attack. By taking a moment to do that I’ve often been able to still get my point across but in a much better and more eloquent way and it hasn’t lead to any further strife.

I can look back now and see that one of the reasons I felt the need to speak my mind was just to be heard. To prove to myself and everyone else that I had thoughts and opinions and deserved to have a place at the proverbial table. I wasn’t just some dumb kid, teen, twenty something, I had thoughts dammit and some of them may have even been very valid.

Now though, I still may still have a lot of the same opinions but not everyone needs to hear everything. Sometimes it’s better to bite your tongue, not get involved or maybe have a word with the relevant person at a later date.

Of course there are times when it is totally valid to speak up and make sure it is heard, I’m in no way advocating for being meek or censoring yourself. I’m just saying that sometimes the better course of action is to stay quiet and maybe walk away.

We all do dumb shit when we’re young and we are all absolutely certain that the way we’re dealing with a situation is, if not the correct way, a perfectly reasonable way. I’m not trying to say that younger people should do anything different either. I genuinely believe that the best way to improve at anything is fuck up at it again and again and learn from your mistakes. Sometimes they’re obvious and easily fixed, other times they’re more subtle and it’s only with a little hindsight that you can see that maybe you were actually the dick in that situation.

I hope that my point has come across and no one feels like I was talking about them personally. I really wasn’t, though if you are feeling that way, maybe that means you’re the perfect audience for this?! Who knows, I’m certainly not wise enough to make that judgement call.

If you enjoyed this post be sure to let me know. It feels like it’s been a minute since I wrote something a bit more insightful and if you have any suggestions for other deeper dives I should do I’d love to hear them. Until then, check back tomorrow for something probably way more nonsensical.

Oh and I'm still trying to improve the overall look of these posts, please tell me if you like or dislike any of the changes I've made.

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