Dr. James Will See You Now
Over the last week or so I’ve found myself helping out a few friends with various problems they’re going through. Some trivial, some serious, some whimsical and most just the stuff we all are or have been dealing with.
I like to think that for a long time I’ve been a good surrogate therapist for my friends and loved ones and I think I’ve only gotten better in recent years.
I now no longer try to fix anyone else’s issues, just give them a sounding board and offer my personal advice either based on personal experience or an impartial viewpoint.
I think I’m in a good position to be able to help at the moment; I’m in a pretty stable and alright place with myself, I don’t have much at all in the way of outside distractions or stuff going on and I’m in a job that gives me the opportunity to reply to friends messages at stupid o’clock at night when they are struggling to sleep and just need someone to talk to.
I put a thing up last night saying as much, not really expecting anyone to take me up on the offer to chat but hoping that they might remember it if they needed to in the future.
I ended up texting with a friend for at least an hour as they were really struggling.
I don’t bullshit my friends, I don’t sugar coat anything and I don’t just tell them what they want to hear. That honest approach is all I know and I’ve been told that it is one of the things my friends appreciate the most about me. I never intend to be callous or upset anyone, but occasionally if someone is really hurting hearing the truth or an opinion that is different to theirs sucks to hear. Far more often than not though, even if it’s not immediate and even if what I said turned out to be wrong, the honesty with which is was given is appreciated.